Smart Tips For Even Smarter Personal Development

images (3)A successful personal development program, will take more than a desire to improve oneself. Well-chosen goals and thorough planning are vital to getting the best out of personal development. However, it does not take a huge amount of studying to learn how to plan well for personal development. Tips like these can help anyone set goals for themselves and reach them quickly.

Gratitude is a very important step to personal development. You must be thankful for each day as it comes. No matter if it was a terrible day, you should still show appreciation for the day that you did have because you have probably learned a valuable lesson that will benefit you in the future.

One of the most important things about personal development is to set achievable goals for yourself. Setting goals that are unreachable will only make you feel discouraged and inclined to quit trying to reach them altogether! Take an inventory of what you would like to accomplish in your life, set a few goals, and watch your dreams become reality.

A great tip for personal development is to always make sure you stand up for your beliefs. If you do not have the guts to stand up for what you believe in, then you will be seen as a weak fool. Do careful research to ensure that your claims are the truth, and the truth can not be denied.

A great self help tip that can help you turn your life around is to start communicating with people that you trust and people that support you. Having people around that can listen to you and be there for you can be a great tool in climbing out of a depression.

When it comes to personal development you may find it beneficial to fast. This is important because only when you learn the limits of your mind and body can you learn to expand on them and further develop yourself. Be sure that you only fast to a healthy extent and do not deny yourself nutrients.

Have reasons and stick to them. Adhering to ideology and belief systems blindly makes you look shallow to others. If you find a component of your knowledge base is essential to your sense of self, you should prepare to defend your position with confidence. It will also help you become more intimate with the beliefs that comprise your core self.

You can improve your life just by picking up a book. Books are a wonderful way to use your imagination, relax, or just to learn something new. And as an added bonus, reading is the best way to increase your vocabulary. So read your way to a better life!

Any attempt at personal development is laudable, but a successful attempt is even more impressive. As with so many things in life, education can be the key to success in this field. You can get some expert advice concerning personal development, by staying receptive to little hints and tricks, just like the ones in this article.

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5 Ways You Can Be Happy NOW Without Changing a Thing

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“I wish that I had let myself be happier.”

This is one of the top five regrets of dying people. We often have this false sense of immortality, that we can take life for granted, put off resolving conflicts with our loved ones, and avoid doing the things we love because we think there’s “still time”. We put off our happiness and instead keep striving endlessly to achieve yet another accomplishment, never really accepting who we are and realizing that happiness must come from within.

I am also guilty of this. For the longest time I struggled with being happy and content because I didn’t think I was thin, rich, or successful enough. I put off doing the things I loved, like traveling, getting dressed up to go out with my girlfriends, or celebrating my accomplishments because of these beliefs. And I didn’t allow myself to be happy because I felt like I wasn’t “there” yet in regards to having my dream life.

Sound familiar?

The ironic thing is, I did achieve a certain level of success, abundance, and fitness that many would be envious of! I moved across the country in pursuit of a richer living experience. I worked out like a maniac and felt healthier than I had been in years. I rose above all my fears to quit my day job so I could grow a business centered around changing people’s lives and living my purpose, and yet, was I really happy?

No, I wasn’t happy. The struggle was continuous for me. I still wanted to achieve more, have more, wanted things to be different so I could have a “perfect” life. And it was EXHAUSTING.

There is no perfect life. There is just life and all the experiences that come with it.

Now I know what you may be thinking. You don’t want to allow yourself to be happy because you’re afraid of growing complacent or settling, which will prevent you from moving forward or progressing in your life. Or you’re resisting being happy because you say, how can I be happy when my current situation sucks? Being happy now means that you’reENJOYING your life while still making those necessary changes: pursuing your goals and dreams, appreciating the things and people around you, and just being present to the beauty and joy that is everywhere. You get to just finally ENJOY life!

So here’s why it’s critical to be happy now:

  • Life is short. Today is a gift and tomorrow is no guarantee. We can’t predict what will happen, so the only moment you truly have is NOW. Make the most of it by being happy and enjoying your life!
  • You want more success, love, or fulfillment? Then be happy! Sounds counter-intuitive, but being happy now will attract the things/changes you want for your life, instead of the other way around!
  • Your goal to be happy is a moving target; you’ll never really reach it. You may think that you’ll be happy and fulfilled after you find that perfect relationship or build a business that is financially and spiritually fulfilling, but once you accomplish that goal, you will have created 2 more in its place.

It doesn’t matter where you are, how you are, or what you don’t have in your life. You CAN be happy now without changing a thing about your current situation.

Here’s how:

1. Let go of the crap from your past

Many people overlook this step. Or they think they’ve let go and made peace, when in actuality they still carry these resentments, memories, and beliefs around with them, clogging their energy level and ultimately harming their self-love and self-worth.

And I was no exception either. The resentments and hurts from my past were what prevented me from taking my life and my business to the next level. They held me back from feeling like I DESERVED to upgrade my life. And the scary thing was, I was very unaware of how toxic these thoughts were to my happiness and well-being!

“When you hold onto resentments, the only person you’re harming is YOURSELF.” [Tweet this!]

It’s like you’re drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. It’s just not going to work!

You may think that from this point on you just need to focus on doing the “right” things, like overcoming your fears, taking big action, thinking all the right thoughts, or being positive, etc. But you will eventually hit an energetic barrier. It will start to feel unnatural because you’ll be forcing yourself to take action from a place of desperationinstead of inspiration.  And who wants to live life forcing ourselves to do things we really don’t “feel” like doing?

Additionally, deep down, your sneaky little ego will continue to fuel your self-doubt and unworthiness, which will end up preventing you from taking the bold action steps in order to take your life or business to the next level.

2. Choose to be exactly who you are and where you are at this very moment

The key word here is CHOICE.

So you hate your current job, career, or relationship. And all you do all day is think about how much you hate it and how you want to change it, or complain to others about it, and resist the fact that it IS your reality. By resisting your current situation, you are actually perpetuating it.

Think about it, exactly how long have you felt “stuck” in your situation, despite all your good intentions and effort to get yourself out of it?

What you resist persists. What you leave alone will disappear. Don’t believe me? Try it on.

Instead of resisting where you are in your life, e.g. career, business, relationship, health, etc, what if you CHOSE it? What if you CHOOSE to be exactly where you are now? How would you feel differently about your current situation? Can you start to feel the RELEASE of pressure and anxiety from constantly fighting or trying to change your current reality? Are you starting to see it diminish in intensity?

When you accept exactly where you are and stop spending time and energy fighting or wondering why you’re in your current situation, youfree up mental, spiritual, and emotional energy to take different action so you can create the results you want for your business and life.

You may think it’s defeatist, but in actuality you are empowering yourself to OWN exactly where you are so you can begin to create an alternate reality for yourself.

3. Be grateful

You’ve heard this one before. Be grateful for where you are and what you have. This is also something I need to be reminded of daily too. So do it now. Take out a piece of paper and answer the following questions:

  • What are you grateful for?
  • Who are you grateful for?
  • What is already abundant in your life?
  • What is already working wonderfully in your life?
  • What are the things you’re happy about?
  • What accomplishments can you celebrate?

I guarantee if you do this exercise or journal about it on a daily basis, you will not only be happier, but you will bring even more abundance, joy, and miracles into your life.

4. Stop striving and just be

Stop striving to reach a target that keeps on moving! Achievement of one of your goals only brings temporary happiness until you can accomplish the next big thing. It is a vicious cycle that will leave you frazzled, burned out, unfulfilled, and NEVER really enjoying or appreciating the moment you are in. You will miss life’s miracles by only living in the past or the future.

5. Let go of your identification with all the crap you’ve been carrying around

Sometimes we don’t realize that we can get really wrapped up in our limiting beliefs to the point of not seeing anything beyond that, i.e. we begin to IDENTIFY so much with the fears, self-doubt, and feelings of unworthiness that it becomes our reality. We’ve lived with them for so long that we’re not even sure what’s underneath all that gunk anymore (well let me remind you: your wondrous, luminous, gorgeous, and amazing self!). So we cling onto this obsession and it becomes almost impossible to get out of that dark place, i.e., we cling onto that victim mentality.

So, are you shielding behind being a victim of your own life? It may be more subtle then you realizd! Even if you are not, it’s time you let go of your identification with all the crap that’s been holding you back.

Decide to move past the negative things people have said or led you to believe about yourself, about you failing, not being good enough, never making it, being weird, stupid, ugly or fat!

It’s time you stopped giving them power by living like these false beliefs are your truth! Liberate yourself by letting go of other people’s beliefs.

6. Do the things you love today

As a matter of fact, stop putting off doing things in general! What is that thing you’ve always dreamed of doing? Jump out of a plane? Backpack around the world? Write a children’s book? Fly an airplane? We often don’t go after these things because we are afraid of failing or we think we have lots of time so we put them off. Shift this type of thinking by remembering that life is short! Don’t end up on your deathbed having all these regrets that you didn’t live your life fully when you had the chance.

So now I want to hear from you. Here is some food (questions) for thought.

What are you not doing or putting off because you are not as successful, rich, skinny, or happy as you want to be?

What if you allowed yourself to be happy NOW?

What do you CHOOSE for your life now so you can empower yourself and create the change you want?

How can you unidentify with all the emotional baggage and limiting beliefs you’ve been carrying around?

Chinh Pham is fear conqueror, life coach, and trailblazer helping people find their purpose, embrace their passion, and become badass in their biz and life!

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Must Have Information About Personal Development

images (2)When you begin to develop yourself as a person it will be hard at times. Striving to live a healthy lifestyle that benefits others consists of many changes. These goals could be anything from a commitment to looking for the best in others, or perhaps to become a better listener. You can take up personal development in a variety of ways. After figuring out some different ways to better yourself, you will not only feel good, others will also see the positive changes in you.

Don’t avoid decision on this road, as they may be an opportunity that you miss. Even if your knowledge is not what it could be, have the courage to make choices. Great decisions encourage sharp instincts. Even decisions that don’t turn out as you would have liked are valuable because you still learn from the experiences they give you. If you make the wrong decision, chances are you, you will not make it again.

Check out a few popular books on developmental techniques that you find particularly interesting. Well written books on personal development will always spark new ideas and give suggestions on altering your life. It is important, however, that you choose a book that has received good reviews. There is no policing on the writers of personal development books, and some of them are sorely lacking in credibility.

Pinpoint exactly what is blocking your progress. This can prove problematic for most folks. To be successful at personal development, start by pinpointing any areas of weakness and target these areas for improvement. Removing obstacles in your life can help you get a clearer picture of what’s to come.

Try to get the most out of your work time to get more accomplished. One effective way to work more efficiently is to schedule more regular break times. Although it sounds counterproductive, taking breaks when working actually allows to to get more accomplished, because you aren’t getting burnt out. The breaks allow you a chance refresh yourself and work harder.

Create a personal development plan by determining what your personal values are. Focusing on areas contrary to your values does not make sense. Instead, spend your time and energy on areas in your life you wish to develop that also synchronize with your personal values. Doing this will help you make changes throughout your life that can benefit you.

Exercise is not just for people trying to lose weight. There are many other benefits from regular exercise. When you exercise, your body is stimulated to produce hormones and chemicals that work together to keep you calm and happy.

Do what it takes to create an emergency fund and add to it even if you can only add a few dollars at a time. It’s common for us to add even more charges to our already overtaxed credit cards whenever an unforeseen expense arises, no matter how large or small. Just by simply investing a couple dollars per week, the amount will quickly grow into a large emergency fund. Emergency funds help in the short-term and the long-term, as you begin to bring your total debt down.

After reading this article you should now feel comfortable taking on the challenge of personal development. Many things could help you improve your current situation and make you happy. It is never too early or late to start changing yourself for the better. This will help you, and the people that surround you.

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Do You Give Yourself a Second Chance?

4817602217_ece6be212e_mThe idea for this post springs from a question in the survey I’m conducting for my ebook.

The question is the title itself – Do you give yourself a second chance?

The responses I’ve met with so far have actually surprised me quite a bit. Giving yourself a second chance per se is dependent on being instinctive, being judgmental and who all affect your decision making.

All of these have been included in my survey and in case you haven’t taken the survey yet, I’d love it if you do, it hardly takes more than 3 minutes and there are 15 questions straight and I think you would be comfortable enough to do it now. Here’s the link to the survey.

Coming back to the question, Do you give yourself a second chance in every step of life? How much significance do you give it? Have you always had instant success in whatever you did in your life?

Possibly not and that is when the dilemma begins.

Failure invariably affects us negatively. Not everyone can find positives when they fail nor will they have the same confidence levels to give themselves a second chance immediately.

And that is exactly why giving yourself a second chance is dependent on instincts, judgment and your decision-making process.

How People Gave Themselves a Second Chance

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There is nothing much in the piechart above. Look at it carefully and read the facts below.

  • Out of the 70 responses I got so far, 34 of them reported that they always gave themselves a second chance. A proper 50%.
  • 20 of them reported that they’d give themselves a second chance sometimes only. To back it up, more interesting facts to follow…
  • 16 of them never or rarely gave themselves second chances.

Those are the stand-alone facts of how people gave themselves a second chance. Remember, this is irrespective of being instinctive, judgmental and their decision making process.

Now, let’s take a combined look at how the above factors affect the question in debate.

  • 14 of the 34 who always gave themselves second chances did not have a say in the decisions of their own lives, they either let their family or friends decide what’s best for them. Quite surprising!
  • 100% of the 34 reported that they relied on their instincts always or more often than not. Better!
  • The same fact applies to those who gave themselves a second chance sometimes. Even better!
  • Only 50% of those who did not take second chances relied on their instincts and even worse only 40% of them had their own say regarding their decisions in life.
  • This one’s the best, only 20% of those who always took second chances were judgmental. The rest were either not sure or did not rely on it unless they had to. Pretty good!

By judgmental I mean, forming opinions of others, situations around you, going into something with a negative and pre-occupied mind. I needn’t explain much about instincts and decision-making.

Quite a number of surprising facts. There are lots of questions which actually gave me intricate details of what made people sad and what made them happy. A lot of research information for my ebook.

I have had 70 responses so far, a big number for a small project but I hope to cross the 100 mark. I’m not limiting myself to that number, the more the better. But a minimum of 100 responses will give me sufficient data to come to a correct analysis.

So in case you haven’t taken the survey yet, please do take it here. It will not take more than 3 minutes, trust me! Also, you needn’t worry about your privacy, I’m not using your name or email address anywhere at all. They are just to make a personal contact if need be.

So, Do you give yourself a second chance?

I just wanted to let you know about a few facts on second chances and also to promote my survey. Do you think second chances are important? How do you see yourself immediately after a failure?

Let me know in the comments and do not forget to take the survey, I’d be really grateful if you did.

Thanks!

Article source : http://beingchirpy.com/second-chance/

Are You Really Relaxing During Your Relaxation Time?

This post is by Karol K. of newInternetOrder.com.

We all need a little relaxation every day, just to keep our productivity at high levels. There’s no productivity without relaxation. No one is superhuman enough to be able to keep going 24/7 like a Duracell bunny.

But is there a possibility we’re getting the whole idea of relaxation wrong?

relaxationI can’t remember where I got this concept from, but there are basically three main areas we operate in: physical, intellectual, and emotional.

No matter what work or activity we’re engaged in at any moment, it always falls into one of these three categories.

So what’s the problem with relaxation?

“Default” relaxation

Most of us have a “favorite” way of relaxing—a favorite activity, for example. This becomes our go-to relaxation activity by default, no matter what we were doing just a minute before.

Unfortunately, sometimes this activity isn’t relaxing at all. I’m sure you experience that feeling from time to time. Let’s say that you love to read, like many people do. And you use it as your main way of relaxing whenever you feel like you need a moment off.

But there are times when you just can’t seem to enjoy it as much as usual. Times when each page isn’t that easily consumed. Times when you can’t even focus on what you’re reading, and you have to re-read each sentence a couple of times.

Does it mean that it’s not a good day for reading? No way. There’s no such thing as a bad day for reading. So what’s the problem, then?

Why your default relaxation activity doesn’t work

The reason why your favorite relaxation activity may not work today lies with the activity you were doing prior to having a moment off.

As I said, there are three main areas we operate in: physical, intellectual, and emotional, no matter what we do. And the thing is that we can’t work and then relax within the same area.

Let me give you an example. Let’s say you’re a web designer, and you’ve just finished working on a new website, or at least you’re reached a milestone and you want to relax for a minute. So you think “I know, I’ll check what’s going on on my favorite design blogs.” This isn’t relaxing.

You can’t relax that way because you’re forcing yourself to keep operating in the same area. Designing costs you a lot of intellectual effort, and now, instead of switching to another area, you’re continuing to put your intellectual self to work by forcing your mind to consume new articles about design.

Physical exercises may be an even better example here. If you’ve just finished your workout at the gym, you’re not going to “relax” by running back home. This makes no sense, right?

So the main question is: how can you truly relax?

True relaxation is simple

To truly relax, simply switch to another area of activity.

If you’ve been using your creative, intellectual mind for the last hour or two, the only way to relax now is to either do a physical activity of some sort (like working out), or some emotional activity, so to speak.

In most cases “emotional” means “social.” So meeting your friends for a beer falls beautifully within this area. Basically, emotional activities are everything that don’t require you to think (intellectually), and don’t involve any type of physical activity.

If you’ve been working out for the last two hours, then reading a book is probably a great way to relax. If you’ve been writing an article, you might relax by playing with your dog. And so on.

On the other hand, if you’ve been writing an article then reading an article about writing isn’t relaxation. If you’ve just finished painting your house, hitting the gym isn’t relaxation.

Here’s an interesting example. Contrary to what you might think, if you’ve been in a fight with your partner then meeting your friends afterwards isn’t relaxing in most cases. What is relaxing though is working out or working intellectually, perhaps at your job.

The simple rule of thumb is: whatever you do, always notice which area you’re operating in, then switch to another area for relaxation. Give your body (or your mind) a little time off.

How long does it take to relax?

Interestingly, if you take this approach, relaxation happens rather quickly. But you have to witch areas often.

You shouldn’t ever be operating in a single area for more than two hours without a break. And I mean it. If you’re doing the same thing for eight hours, it will take you what remains of your day to relax. This isn’t efficient at all.

I’ve found that the most effective thing for me to do is to work for one hour, and then take a ten-minute break (shifting to another area of activity). After that I resume work, and repeat the process.

By using such an approach, I can easily “work” for many hours without any sign of being tired. It doesn’t even feel like working. But that’s just my story … your mileage may vary.

Anyway, give it a shot. Just try to work for one hour, and then take a ten-minute break, switching to another area. Finally, get back to work again. Do it for one week and see if it doesn’t improve your productivity and your levels of relaxation.

Once you’re done with this experiment don’t forget to come back and share your opinion about this whole idea. Is it working for you like it is for me?

Great Personal Development Tips That Are Proven To Work

images (3)When thinking about personal development, you need to do what works for you, everyone is different and each individual has to apply what works for them. That being said, it is important for you to gain as much knowledge as you can with regards to your own personal development. Follow these tips to help you grow and improve yourself.

Spend time with people who look at life the same way you do. This will allow you to stay motivated and keep you away from those that might hinder your personal development.

See what is in the way between your success and you. Many people find this to be a very difficult thing to do. The ability to see your own weaknesses is essential to being able to take the first step in the right direction. By eliminating problems, you can find your future path easier.

Get as much work done as you can during the day. To do this, you need to increase the amount of breaks each day. Although this seems counterproductive, taking regular breaks is good because it gives you the chance to recharge your mind, so when you resume work, you’ll be able to get more done.

Put your core beliefs into practice. Each person has his or her center of beliefs. If you have this rooted in a good foundation, your self-esteem will benefit greatly due to this. It also demonstrates to other people an admirable consistency. This is a trait that others will find attractive.

You need to know what your beliefs are in order to make a personal development plan. Working against these values will lead to frustration and failure. Focus on what makes you a happier person and what needs to be improved. Doing this will help you make changes throughout your life that can benefit you.

Exercise should be a part of everyone’s routine. There are lots of good, healthy reasons for exercising. When you exercise, your body releases endorphins, improving your mood and keeping you calm.

You have to care for yourself before you can start taking care of others. No matter how far along you are in your personal development journey, you need to relax and reflect every once in a while.

Therapy is the answer for many with serious problems. While self-help books can be effective, many cannot provide the benefits that come from personal, targeted interaction with a therapist. Simply talking can help motivate you to succeed. Books can’t talk back like a trained professional, after all.

You may find that meeting and talking with a spiritual or secular counselor a rewarding experience. These people have plenty of experience, and are licensed to help with your problems. They are willing to talk things through with you and offer valuable insight. Taking the time to talk out your problems is very beneficial for your mental health, and having someone to bounce your ideas off makes it even better.

This information is only valuable if you use it. The way towards success is to give it a try. Get crackin’ and use these tips to improve yourself and be the best person you can.

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